“Quarter-life Crisis”
March 15, 2006 at 8:16 pm | In Uncategorized | 1 CommentBeing Twenty-something – they call it the “Quarter-life Crisis”
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start
realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn’t know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a
year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are
now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe,
those friends that you thought you were so close to aren’t exactly
the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost
touch with are some of the most important ones.
What you don’t recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren’t really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job… and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing
and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize
that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly
adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn’t. One
minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You
feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and
you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize
that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing
to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved
could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can’t meet
anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love
someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are
doing this because you know that you aren’t a bad person. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot don’t seem as fun.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over,
and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to
make a decision.
You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life
for yourself… and while winning the race would be great, right
now you’d just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to
it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by
the moments that take our breath away.”
It’s really amazing when two strangers become the best of
friends, but it is really sad when the best of friends become two
strangers.
Success doesn’t mean the absence of failures; it means the attainment of ultimate objectives. It means winning the war, not every battle.
Gone are the days
February 16, 2006 at 11:35 am | In MUSINGS & THOUGHTS | 1 CommentDon’t read this in haste, Sit back and read it when u
have time….. u might get a smirk in mind and a beam
at heart…….
Gone are the days
When The school reopened in June,
And we settled in our new desks and benches.
When we queued up in book depot,
And got our new books and notes.
When we wanted two Sundays and no Mondays, yet managed
to line up daily for the morning prayers.
We learnt writing with slates and pencils, and
Progressed To fountain pens and ball pens and then
Micro tips.
We began drawing with crayons and evolved to Colour
pencils and finally sketch pens.
We started calculating first with tables and then with
Clarke’s tables and advanced to calculators and
computers.
When we chased one another in the corridors in
Intervals, and returned to the classrooms
Drenched in sweat.
When we had lunch in classrooms, corridors,
Playgrounds, under the trees and even in cycle sheds.
When all the colors in the world,
Decorated the campus on the Second Saturdays.
When a single P.T. period in the week’s Time Table,
Was awaited more eagerly than the monsoons.
When cricket was played with writing pads as bats,
And Neckties and socks rolled into balls.
When few played “kabadi” and “Kho-Kho” in scorching
sun, While others simply played “book cricket” in the
Confines of classroom.
Of fights but no conspiracies,
Of Competitions but seldom jealousy.
When we used to watch Live Cricket telecast,
In the opposite house in Intervals and Lunch breaks.
When few rushed at 3:45 to “Conquer” window seats in
our School bus.
While few others had “Big Fun”, “peppermint”, “kulfi”,
” milk ice !” and “sharbat !” at 4o Clock.
Gone are the days Of Sports Day,
and the annual School Day ,
And the one-month long preparations for them.
Gone are the days Of the stressful
Quarterly, Half Yearly and Annual Exams, And the most
enjoyed holidays after them.
Of tenth and twelfth standards, when we Spent almost
the whole year writing revision tests.
We learnt, we enjoyed, we played, we won, we lost,
We laughed, we cried, we fought, we thought.
With so much fun in them, so many friends,
So much experience , all this and more.
Gone are the days when we used to talk for hours with
our friends. Now we don’t have time to say a “Hi.”
Gone are the days when we played games on the road.
Now we work on the road with laptop.
Gone are the days when we saw stars shining at night.
Now we see stars when our work doesn’t work.
Gone are the days when we sat to chat with friends on
grounds. Now we chat in chat rooms…..
Gone are the days where we studied just to pass.
Now we study to save our job
Gone are the days where we had no money in our pockets
and fun filled on our hearts Now we have the atm as
well as credit card
but with an empty heart
Gone are the days where we shouted on the road.
Now we dont shout even at home
Gone are the days where we got lectures from all.
Now we give lectures to all… like the one I’m doing
now….
Gone are the days
But not the memories, which will be
Lingering in our hearts for ever and ever and Ever and
ever and
Ever …..
NO MATTER HOW BUSY YOU ARE, DONT FORGET TO
LIVE THE LIFE THAT STILL EXISTS.
Sweet memories
February 14, 2006 at 11:51 am | In MUSINGS & THOUGHTS | 8 CommentsI have another cat blog, where I have posted some Sweet memories http://nkspot.blogspot.com/
IT Survivors – Staying Alive In A Software Job
February 14, 2006 at 11:04 am | In BETTER INDIA | 8 CommentsWritten by Harshad Oak
Tursday, 03 November 2005
Before I started working for myself, I spent some years in some of
the top IT companies in India and still have many friends working in
various software companies. I wrote a blog Recruiting like crazy, about
the same time last year about how Indian companies are recruiting
like there’s no tomorrow and the possible consequences. However I was
avoiding writing this particular piece as it seems like an unpatriotic
thing to do, to tell the world how bad the working conditions in
software companies in India have become. And there’s always the risk of
excerpts being used out of context to bash up IT in India.
I am now writing this because I just keep hearing horror tales from
the industry and it doesn’t seem like anything is being done in the
matter, so I thought I will do my bit and write.
First and foremost, before stereotypes about India kick in, I would
like to clarify that I am not saying that Indian software companies
are sweat shops where employees aren’t being paid and made to work in
cramped uncomfortable places. The pay in software companies is very
good as compared to other industries in India and the work places are
generally well furnished and plush offices. India being a strong
democracy, freedom of __expression is alive and well and Indians are free
to express their opinions and voice their concerns. Yet, I say that
the software industry is exploiting its employees.
IT work culture in India is totally messed up and has now started
harming the work culture of the nation as a whole. Working 12+ hours a
day and 6 or even 7 days a week is more the rule than the exception.
Consequences:
· A majority of IT people suffer from health problems.As most of the
IT workforce is still very young, the problem isn’t very obvious
today but it will hit with unbearable ferocity when these youngsters get
to their 40s.
· Stress levels are unbelievable high. Stress management is a cover
topic in magazines and newspapers and workshops on the subject are
regularly overbooked.
· Most IT people have hardly any social / family life to talk of.
· As IT folk are rich by Indian standards, they try to buy their way
out of their troubles and have incurred huge debts by buying
expensive houses, gizmos and fancy cars.
Plush offices, fat salaries and latest gizmos can give you happiness
only if you have a life in the first place.
The reason I feel this culture has emerged, is the servile attitude
of the companies. Here’s a tip for any company in the west planning to
outsource to India. If you feel that a project can be completed in 6
weeks by 4 people, always demand that it be completed in 2 weeks by 3
people.
Guess what, most Indian companies will agree. The project will then
be hyped up as an “extremely critical” one and the 3 unfortunate souls
allocated to it will get very close to meeting the almighty by the
time they deliver the project in 2 weeks. Surprisingly, they will
deliver in 2-3 weeks, get bashed up for any delays and the company will
soon boast about how they deliver good quality in reasonable time and
cost. Has anyone in India ever worked on a project that wasn’t
“extremely critical”?
I was once at a session where a top boss of one of India’s biggest IT
firms was asked a question about what was so special about their
company and his answer was that we are the “Yes” people with the “We Can
Do It ” attitude. It is all very well for the top boss to say “We Can
Do It “.. what about the project teams who wish to say “Please….We
Can’t Do It ” to the unreasonable timelines…I was tempted to ask
“What death benefits does your company offer to the teams that get
killed in the process?”. I sure was ashamed to see that a fellow Indian
was openly boasting about the fact that he and his company had no
backbone. The art of saying No or negotiating reasonable time frames for
the team is very conspicuous by its absence. Outsourcing customers
more often than not simply walk all over Indian software companies. The
outsourcer surely cannot be blamed as it is right for him to demand
good quality in the least cost and time.
Exhaustion = Zero Innovation
· How many Indians in India are thought leaders in their software
segment? – Very few
· How much software innovation happens in India? – Minimal
· Considering that thousands of Indians in India use Open Source
software, how many actually contribute? – Very few
Surprisingly, put the same Indian in a company “in” the US and he
suddenly becomes innovative and a thought leader in his field. The
reason is simple, the only thing an exhausted body and mind can do well,
is sleep. zzzzzz
I can pretty much bet on it that we will never see innovation from
any of 10000+ person code factories in India.
If you are someone sitting in the US, UK… and wondering why the
employees can’t stand up, that’s the most interesting part of the story.
Read on…
The Problem
The software professional Indian is today making more money in a
month than what his parents might have made in an year. Very often a 21
year old newbie software developer makes more money than his/her 55
year old father working in an old world business. Most of these
youngsters are well aware of this gap and so work under an impression that
they are being paid an unreasonable amount of money. They naturally
equate unreasonable money with unreasonable amount of work.
Another imp ortant factor is this whole bubble that an IT person lives
in.. An IT professional walks with a halo around his or her head.
They are the Cool, Rich Gen Next .. the Intelligentsia of the New
World… they travel all over the world, vacation at exotic locations
abroad, talk “american”, are more familiar of the geography of the USA
than that of India and yes of course, they are the hottest things in the
Wedding Market!!!
This I feel is the core problem because if employees felt they were
being exploited, things would change.
I speak about this to some of my friends and the answer is generally
“Hey Harshad, what you say is correct and we sure are suffering, but
why do you think we are being paid this much money? It’s not for 40
hours but for 80 hours a week. And anyway what choice do we have? It’s
the same everywhere.”
So can we make things change? Is there a way to try and stop an
entire generation of educ ated Indians from ending up with “no life”.
Solutions
1) Never complement someone for staying till midnight or working 7
days a week.
Recently, in an awards ceremony at a software company, the manager
handing over the “employee of the month” award said something like
“It’s unbelievable how hard he works. When I come to office early, I see
him working, when I leave office late, I still see him working”..
These sort of comments can kill the morale of every employee trying to
do good work in an 8hr day.
Companies need to stop hiding behind the excuse that the time
difference between India and the west is the reason why people need to stay
in office for 14 hours a day. Staying late should be a negative thing
that should work against an employee in his appraisals. Never
complement someone for staying till midnight or working 7 days a week .
2) Estimates:
If time estimates go wrong, the comp any should be willing to take a
hit and not force the employee to work crazy hours to bail projects
out of trouble. This will ensure that the estimates made for the next
project are more real and not just what the customer has asked for.
3) Employee organizations / forums
NASSCOM (National Association for Software and Services Companies)
and CSI (Computer Society Of India) are perhaps the only two well known
software associations in India and both I feel have failed the
software employee. I do not recall any action from these organizations to
try and improve the working conditions of software employees. This has
to change.
I am not in favor of forming trade unions for software people, as
trade unions in India have traditionally been more effective at ruining
businesses and making employees inefficient than getting employees
their rights and helping business do well. So existing bodies like
NASSCOM sho uld create and popularize employee welfare cells at a state /
regional level and these cells should work only for employee welfare
and not be puppets in the hands of the companies.
If the industry does not itself create proper forums for employee
welfare, it’s likely that the government / trade unions will interfere
and mess up India’s sunshine industry.
4) Narayan Murthys please stand up
Top bosses of companies like Infosys, TCS, Wipro, etc. need to send
the message loud and clear to their company and to other companies
listening at national IT events that employee welfare is really their
top concern and having good working culture and conditions is a
priority. Employee welfare here does not mean giving the employee the salary
he/she dreams of.
Last word
I am sure some of my thoughts come from the fact that I too worked in
such an environment for a few years and perhaps I haven’t got over
the frustrations I experienced back then. So think about my views with
a pinch of salt but do think about it. And if you have an opinion on
this issue, don’t forget to add a comment to this article
“It is not the government that will reform the economy but it is the economy that will reform the government in India”…Says Marc Faber
February 8, 2006 at 4:32 pm | In BETTER INDIA | 3 CommentsThe other day I happened to catch this interview on CNBC, luckily I found the same in the link below…Another example of what Globalisation has done to wake up Indian govt at last!!!!
http://news.moneycontrol.com/backends/News/frontend/news_detail.php?autono=201454&sr_no=1
I guess we wow a lot to Manmohan singh & the late PVN govt who together brought in the first wave of liberalisation in 1991.I have a close friend of mine who is an engineer. He once explained the plight of engineers to get a job in 1990-91,(when reforms were slowly kicking). They had once protested in front of a state parliament by shining the shoes!!!!, to show the plight of unemployed educated of the country, but did the Govt wake up nay!!.
I just cant dare think of the situation India would be in, had we not liberalised in 1991. I mean with the burgeoning working population with NO JOBS, would be a perfect recipe for
- A revolt/revolution ——Considering India’s Non -violent past that can be ruled out.
- A state were India would have had to be classified as poorest countries, probably sharing dias with some third world countries ….This state also breeds to other socio-economic problems like the ones faced in North -east.
INDIA now is referred to as Developing Economy (not a third world nation!!) Had it not been for the Globalisation & the timing of opening up of our Mkts, we wouldn’t have been where we are Today. otherwise how else could one explain successful privatisation of Mumbai & New Delhi Airports by a communists backed govt!!!
To a question on Govt’s policies this what Marc Faber had to say…in his own words ..
“So it is not the government that will reform the economy but it is the economy that will reform the government in India and it is very obvious. You see for instance, the discount airlines in India, and as you know the airline traffic has risen very substantially in terms of passengers carried annually.
So one the private sector has reformed itself, has done a fantastic job and the other is the government sector, as represented by the airport, that taught us about the worst in the whole world; Africa aside. Now because the airline traffic has increased so much the government is scratching its head and saying, well we better start to also look at the airports because otherwise people won’t be able to get in and out of airports. That is where the bottleneck is occurring.”
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