Being Twenty-something – they call it the “Quarter-life Crisis”

       It  is  when  you stop going along with the crowd and start
realizing  that  there  are  many things about yourself that you didn’t know and may not like.

       You  start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a
year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are
now.

       You  start  realizing  that people are selfish and that, maybe,
those friends  that  you  thought  you  were so close to aren’t exactly
the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost
touch with are some of the most important ones.

       What  you  don’t  recognize  is that they are realizing that too, and aren’t  really  cold,  catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused  as you.

        You look at your job… and it is not even close to what  you  thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job  and  realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

       Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing
and find yourself  judging  more  than usual because suddenly you realize
that you  have  certain  boundaries in your life and are constantly
adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn’t. One
minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.

       You  laugh  and  cry  with  the greatest force of your life. You
feel alone  and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and
you try  and  cling  on to the past with dear life, but soon realize
that the  past  is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing
to do but stay where you are or move forward.

       You  get  your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved
could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can’t meet
anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love
someone but  love  someone  else  too and cannot figure out why you are
doing this because you know that you aren’t a bad person. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot don’t seem as fun.

       You  go  through  the  same emotions and questions over and over,
and talk with your  friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to
make a decision.
       You  worry  about  loans,  money,  the  future  and making a life
for yourself…  and  while  winning  the  race would be great, right
now you’d just like to be a contender!

       What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to
it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

        “Life  is  not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by
the moments that take our breath away.”

       It’s  really  amazing  when two strangers become the best of
friends, but it is really sad when the best of friends become two
strangers.

          Success doesn’t mean the absence of failures; it means the attainment of ultimate objectives. It means winning the war, not every battle.